I’m a working mum with 3 kids. I’ve no maid, I left home to work at 8 am and reach home around 7 pm. I’ve so little time to spend with my kids and doing the house chores. So, please don’t imagine that I own an English concept house ke, contemporary style ke, or any kinda style yang Eric Leong selalu buat tu. As long as the house is clean, laundry is done, that’s heaven for me.
To ease my burden, I did ask my kids to help me along. Semua nak buat sorg2 mati la. Banyak dah kerja kita boleh bagi anak2 tolong. Diorang pun sebenarnya rasa lebih dihargai, rasa macam diri dah besar sebab dapat buat kerja adults, jadi lebih bertanggungjawab juga. So, what are the chores that we can let them do?
Tidy up their room
Let them clean up their room. Make their own bed. Lipat selimut senget2 pun takpe. Cadar tak kemas pun it’s okay. Ajar slowly. Weekend is the best day for them to clean up the whole room, sweep the floor, change the bed sheet, make the bed properly.
Believe me they’ll love doing this. My 3 kids will definitely lari laju2, berebut nak ambik vacuum, tarik wayar, pasang plug and start vacuuming. While the youngest (he’s 2 yrs and half) will at times ride the vacuum, or switch it of and keep on pressing the button to roll off the cord. Abang n kakak will start screaming. Though the vacuuming times will take longer but I think it’s their bonding time.
Water plants and gardening
Another favorite task by most of the kids in the whole world. Seronok dapat main air n main tanah. Get them a small watering can, the one with bright n fancy colors, or just a small can (tin susu) make tiny holes at the bottom. They’ll love it.
Sort, Start, Switch, Fold, and Put Away Laundry
We can let them to sort the laundry, e.g. pilih baju sendiri and put aside. Easier for us to fold it. Ataupun baju dah lipat and ask them to put away their clothes. Ajar macamana nak susun baju dalam almari, macamana nak ambil baju/seluar carefully without messing it up.
Take care of pets
My girl once ask me if she could have a cat of her own. She’s only 7. Too bad my answer is NO. Cause I did’t think that she can handle everything. Nanti kucing berak sapa nak cuci. I’m not a pet person. They used to have a pair of tortoise and fish of course. But it ended up mommy needs to do everything. Mula2 je semangat waja. Lama2 dah tak nak buat. So I think they’re not ready for pet, yet. But if mommies out there if u think that ur kids are ready, u can have them to feed their pet, clean up cages, walk the pet. It’ll be great for the kids to show their maturity and responsibility.
Sweep and mop the floor
Kids love doing this. I didn’t really encourage my kids to do the mopping cause worrying that they might slip and fall. But they’ll help me sweeping the lawn. My mom in law gave me this cute and tiny broom which she bought in Kelantan, tak pernah jumpa kat kedai area my house pun lagi. Penyapu tu pendek je batang dia. Jadi budak2 suka guna, which is about their size and it’s really light.
Rinse the dishes
Trust ur kids with the plates and glasses. They can handle it. Just make sure that u double check it once they’ve cleaned it. Especially pinggan makan nasik. Kadang2 tak sental bersih2 ada lagi minyak or nasik yang terlekat.
Simple prep meal
Once a while I’ll let my kids do breakfast or snacks for me. Let them pour their own cereals and milk, do their own toast, allow them to use knife once in a while (but with our supervision). They’ll eat more, in a large portion than always. Konon2 diorang la tukang masaknya. Boleh jugak bagi anak2 tolong kacau kuah kat dalam periuk atas dapur, tolong letakkan garam or even jadi tukang rasa cukup masam, manis or masinnya makanan tu.
Mommies please don’t be afraid or think that ur kids were way to young to do house chores. They need to be trained and taught. Supaya dah besar nanti anak2 akan tahu macamana nak buat kerja rumah, they will be independent, no relying on mothers or bibiks to do everything. Get ur boys to do house chores as well, nanti takde la rumah bujang or their own room jadi macam gua or kandang kambing pulak.
But, put this in mind, the things that I keep on reminding myself too (I get these from moneysaving mom):
1. Your Kids Need to Know What You Expect from Them
Teach ur children how to do a job well, because u can’t expect them to know how to do it right. Before asking them to do a chore on their own, work with them a few times showing them specifically how to do it.
2. Don’t Expect Them To Do It Well–Especially At First
It often takes a lot of repetitive teaching, gentle correcting, and practice before a child can do a job well. Don’t expect perfection–especially when they are young. What matters is that they are putting forth effort and trying their best.
3. Praise 10 Times As Much As You Correct
It’s easy to want to focus on pointing out all the things a child does wrong and where they need to improve. Instead of dwelling on what they didn’t do right, focus most of your energies on praising those things they did well. Encouragement and affirmation go a very long way!
All the best mommies 😀